It is a tricky thing and it has taken a long time for me to learn this. When I see a film or a play and it could have been marvelous, but wasn’t, my knee-jerk reaction is to understand why. And I used to launch into my musings once the film/play had ended in hopes of getting another point of view. But I’ve learned to hold back these days unless I get a clear go ahead. I’ve friends who are inherently uncritical (and I love that about them) and I realize that I’ve dumped on their positive experience. While I’m trying to understand “why,” they are experiencing afterglow. I’ve had to learn that the world does not always require my opinion on things. There’s a time and company for expressing frustration. I have to remember that the point of any activity requires my awareness of the experience of others.
It is a tricky thing and it has taken a long time for me to learn this. When I see a film or a play and it could have been marvelous, but wasn’t, my knee-jerk reaction is to understand why. And I used to launch into my musings once the film/play had ended in hopes of getting another point of view. But I’ve learned to hold back these days unless I get a clear go ahead. I’ve friends who are inherently uncritical (and I love that about them) and I realize that I’ve dumped on their positive experience. While I’m trying to understand “why,” they are experiencing afterglow. I’ve had to learn that the world does not always require my opinion on things. There’s a time and company for expressing frustration. I have to remember that the point of any activity requires my awareness of the experience of others.